Putting Out the Love Vibes
In the past several weeks I have been creating a list of charateristics of a future partner, which I cannot live without.
Taking a tip from Diana Kirschner's work,
I assembled an email group of Love Mentors to help me.
I drafted a list (which I will share in the future) and sent it out to trusted friends and family asking them to look it over and "knowing me well as you do, is there anything else you see missing from this list that you know I could not live without?--not what you think I should have but what would be critical for me to have and I am not seeing?" I have been delighted to have wonderful feedback, confirmation, compliments, encouragement, and great support.My previous longterm partners were wonderful in many ways, but there were key lacks that ultimately destroyed these relationships. The lacks were in me, because I did not see that I needed--absolutely deserved--certain types of interactions and qualities. So I got what I deserved and magnitized to me. The vibes I radiated attracted the partners I got.
Below is the information on Kirschner's programs which will be airing on PBS this weekend and comign week. I plan to watch to glean any more helpful tips. And IF the partner I want is a fantasy concoction, as I have been told by one person, then I will take myself and live happily ever after. That is what my Aunt Nelle always said: the ones I wanted I couldn't get, the ones I could get I didn't want. So I took myself.
Show Information --"Finding Your Own True Love"
The PBS Pledge Special, Finding Your Own True Love will start airing this weekend & continue airing through March! In this dynamic, practical and inspirational talk, renowned psychologist, Diana Kirschner, Ph.D. offers public TV viewers a front-row seat to a landmark event: she presents, for the first time on television, her Finding Your Own True Love Program.
Dr. Diana discusses the single most important thing you can do to create more love in your life; how single women of any age can find and date fulfilling partners and create great relationships; plus
simple steps couples can use to deepen intimacy and create more passion. Based on material from Dr. Diana's bestselling book, Love in 90 Days, this unique show provides four easy-to-apply steps that can
transform your life.
Sample of Diana's Tips: "Crumbs"
The pattern: You're involved with a guy (who may be married) who sees you occasionally and only when it works in his schedule. For the most part, he treats you well when he's with you. If he's wealthy, he may buy you Manolos or take you out to five-star restaurants. He may be hot in bed. But he cuts you off if his wife or son needs the slightest thing. And he's never available when you need or want him. This rejection causes you a great deal of pain, yet you think that overall it's a good deal. You spend a lot of time thinking and fantasizing about him: how he's going to leave his wife or cut back on his work schedule and be with you in a rose-covered cottage or on the beach in Maui. In your heart of hearts, you know that day will never come, but you're afraid to act on that knowledge. Although you'd never admit it, even to your best friend, you believe that this second-class status is the very best you'll ever be able to get and you're damn lucky to have it.
The fix: Give up the crumbs and take a seat at the banquet table. First, break up with him. Then make a rule: I only date men who are (a) available and (b) crazy about me (for real). Try this on for size, even if it means spending time with guys who "aren't good enough" but who treat you like royalty. You need to learn what it really means to be loved.
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Click on book cover to order:
(price starts at $11 for used copies)
In the TV show, Diana will teach you how to:
~Break Deadly Dating Patterns that ruin any chance of lasting love
~Create a powerful Love Intention that helps you find love that is just right for you
~Use the Diamond Self exercise that overcomes shyness and enhances self-esteem and charisma
~Empower yourself through the Dating Program of Three
~Find, attract and date terrific men
Finding Your Own True Love has been picked up by 70+ US cities, including New York, Chicago, LA, San Francisco and Boston! You won't want to miss it! For a list of all cities and times for the show,
click here: PBS Love in 90 Days Schedule
My engineer friend, Dave, recently described me as a hub to another friend. I was startled at his title for me--a hub? What could he mean? And was that a good thing? Or did that mean I was self-centered and in the old slang of my southern childhood-- stuck on myself? Self-centered? For a Boomer of my age and a woman growing up in the stifle yorself 1950s, being self-centered, if you were female, was the WORST! 
